Happiness isn’t as elusive as it seems….
All of us yearn for happiness, yet most of us have a very difficult time finding it.
How do we get it? What do we have to do? Is it even possible to find it considering what’s happened to me?
We talked with women’s empowerment coach Julie Santiago about happiness hoping to find answers to the questions we all have at one point or another.
She gave us a list of five great tips to get you started on your journey to a more fulfilling life:
1. Claim you’re ready to be happy
“So often we know that something’s off in our lives but we aren’t really sure what it is and we’re afraid to admit it,” Santiago told us.
These moments or seasons of dissonance reveal something important: we’re missing an element of happiness. The good news is, Santiago said, you can find it.
“It’s time to make the claim that you are ready to be happy and you are ready to do something different.”
Start by making the claim that you want to be happy, whether it’s by verbally saying it every morning, writing down on a note card and sticking it to your mirror or saying a daily prayer for happiness.
“If you don’t say it and you don’t claim it it can’t really happen. Whether you repeat it or write it down, it’s time to make the claim that you are ready to be happy and you are ready to do something different,” Santiago said. “When you make this claim or say this prayer or set this intention, everything in the world begins to align to help you you find exactly what you need.”
2. Keep a journal
You’ll discover that keeping a journal is essential to personal development, particularly when it comes to cultivating a life of happiness.
“It’s so important to tune in to what’s actually happening in our lives and our bodies…those things hold the key to our happiness.”
Writing down the way you react to certain events or people you encounter during the day will guide you in your journey to happiness.
“A journal is an indispensable part of keeping track things. It’s so important to tune in to what’s actually happening in our lives and our bodies – when they’re open and when they’re closed,” Santiago said. “Those things hold the key to our happiness.”
3. Write down the things that make you feel alive
Your journey to happiness is a matter of keeping your eyes and your journal open. In the positive sense, it’s essential that you make a note of the activities, relationships and events in your life that make you feel vibrant.
“Check in with yourself when you’re doing things that make you feel resonant,” Santiago said. “Write down when you feel alive and when you’re resonating with what’s around you when you resonate with what you’re doing and when you feel open and expansive and alive.
4. Write down the things that make you feel closed in or dark
On the other side of the happiness spectrum are the moments in which you feel closed in – when you are feeling disconnected and distant. It’s just as important to make a note of these moments as it is to record the moments which make you feel connected.
“Notice when you feel dissonant, when you’re contracting or feel closed or dark or moody or angry.”
“Write down what makes you feel closed, dissonant or unhappy,” Santiago said. “Notice when you feel dissonant, when you’re contracting or feel closed or dark or moody or angry.”
5. Let go of one of those things that makes you feel closed.
As you open your eyes to the things which affect your mood and outlook, it will become clear that certain things in your life need to go. Saying “No” to the things which make you feel dark or trapped is one of the crucial steps on your journey to happiness.
“In order to bring in more of what you love in your life, you have to first let go to what you don’t love.”
“In order to bring in more of what you love in your life, you have to first let go to what you don’t love,” Santiago said. “If you’re holding on to these things you’re doing just because you feel like you have to do them and they’re making you feel flat and uninspired then you can’t be given the things you do love in your life.”
Saying “no” to the things which detract from your happiness isn’t only a matter of cutting off the dead parts of your life – “When you let go of something you don’t love, you’re making space for something you do love.”
Want More Happiness?
Julie Santiago’s step-by-step Goaly strategy is titled “Find Happiness and Purpose in 8 Days”. The free 10-session strategy plan is pretty amazing.
Here’s Julie’s introductory video for the “8 Days” strategy: