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By Life Coach and Author Carole Ann Rice

You know how it is – you’ve tried just about everything but nothing’s working.  A course of vitamins, the latest self-help book and even a little judicious retail therapy but you are still feeling as flat as a supermodel’s tum.  Sometimes a fragrant oily bath or a bit of chocolate mouth-entertainment just doesn’t cut through the feeling that someone out there is living the life you ordered.

We can look to others for some emotional rescue but find the Closed sign up as they can neither see or hear us.  Other times a holiday, or something lush to look forward to on the horizon, is enough to drag us through the grey days and the gloom.  Still… it all kind of feels like your killing time, sleepwalking or enduring life rather than enjoying it.

I used to work as a feature writer in a newspaper office and the coffee machine used to digitally count down the seconds until a grey cup of mud was dispensed.  I remember then thinking it was like some portentous millennium-style clock ticking off moments of my life I wasn’t enjoying and reminding me to shape up and ship out.

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These are precious days we will never have again so why are we just crossing them off as though they were something to suffer and then discard until what we perceive as the main event comes into view?

So if life is currently showing up in black and white and you want to switch it back to full Technicolour with wraparound sound you may need to start having a love affair with life.  I know this is easier said than done when you feel like a big grey damp duvet is wrapped around you one doesn’t feel flirty or even vaguely interested in Life even when it is wearing tight jeans, crooking it’s finger at you and giving you the cutest “come on” smile.

But one has to coax out that vital feeling by finding things that nourish and restore from the inside out, like a sort of spiritual hot choc and marshmallow totty that will light you up and keep the home fires burning even when you feel like your pilot light’s gone out.

Here are some suggestions I guarantee (oh and I do like a guarantee in life – there are so few) will start to get you plugged in once again to the mellifluous heart beat and rhythm of life and put a Gene Kelly glide in your stride.

  • Start smiling at people or striking up conversations with folk you see regularly at the station, in the corner shop or grocers, the rubbish collectors, security guys, neighbours, check -out staff, road sweepers – feel the connectedness  in your daily community.  It feels good to belong and it’s such a buzz walking down the street and waving, smiling and greeting folks you know.
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  • Exercise often.  My daily tonic is a run around the park with the sun bouncing off the frosted grass, the fog in my hair and the gnats in my teeth.  Nature provides its own natural Prozac and feel-good vibes. Birdsong, noticing the subtlety and magic of our seasons and the great sense that you are but a small speck in a vast universe tends to keep things in perspective.
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  • Wearing your best stuff.  Get your killer heels, finest lingerie or pulling pants, sharp suit, jewels, perfume and body products out of tissue paper and storage and wear it right now.  This time, right here right now, is one to celebrate.
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  • Be generous and practice random acts of kindness.  Buy the guy behind you a coffee or a colleague their favourite snack bar.  Send thank you notes and compliment your friends and make them feel good. It comes straight back at you like a big karmic boomerang.
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  • Do less.  We are all doing far too much and we are not building in enough down-time treats to restore ourselves.  Create daily habits which nurture and lift the heart from speaking to old friends, reading a good book, playing music or eating good organic food. Make time to honour yourself.
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  • Don’t worry about getting out of the comfort zone – be terrified you’ll never get out of it.  Regularly scare yourself silly by trying new skills, speaking up, meeting new people or committing to something that will stretch you.  Give your soul a shake up.
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  • Act “as if” you already had everything you are aiming for. Manifest it right now by being the person with the big promotion, 6 figure income, sashaying like a love bomb and broadcasting the success you have always craved.  Just watch how people start to respond.
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  • Make a list of 100 things you are good at/ like about yourself or others like about you.  Read it regularly, believe it then own it.
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  • Remember that your life and all that is in it could well be on somebody else’s wish list.
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  • Give yourself a hug.  Show yourself unending, unconditional compassion, be gentle and embrace your own humanity.
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  • Don’t walk strut.  Chin up, swing your hips, loosen the shoulders and smile.
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  • Look in the mirror and say “Who loves ya, baby?” and know the answer

 
Carole Ann Rice is one of the UK’s top coaches. Find out more www.realcoachingco.com

Get coaching on video from Carole Ann Rice live at www.goaly.com on her profile http://www.goaly.com/carole-ann-rice

 

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Skinny is Better Than Sex

Chances are you’d give up sex this summer to make sure you don’t gain 10 pounds.

According to weight-loss experts Nutrisystem, 52 percent of women in America would drop sex to avoid gaining a 10-spot.

With summer fast approaching, our waistlines are giving us that menacing stare that makes us want to stop eating altogether in order to slim down for our next trip to the beach.

There’s no way were going to give up food for the summer, but Nutrisystem says there’s a lot of other things (including sex) to which we’d say “Adios” if we had the chance to get a flat tummy:

  • The majority of Americans said they think they need to lose 23 pounds in order to feel sexy.
  • One in four men would give up sex for the summer if they could avoid gaining 10 pounds.
  • More Americans would prefer to shed 10 to 20 pounds this summer than get promoted at work
  • About three out of four Americans are willing to give up television, their cell phones or their computers for a  flat tummy

The Secret To Success: 4 Life Coaches Offer Awesome Insight

Finding the motivation to shed pounds is easy enough — we want to feel amazing when we strip down and dig our toes into the sand.

However, Nutrisystem says that as much as we want to lose weight, many of us are just too stubborn. We don’t want to give up the pound-producing foods that add inches to our waists.

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Now before you whip out the tape measure and read those fateful numbers, take step back from your pre-summer enthusiasm and make a plan of attack which includes the advice of some of the best life coaches in the business.

4 Ways to Make Your Summer Weight Loss Plan a Success

1. One Change at a Time

Julie Ferman, a popular dating coach in Los Angeles, said the key to keep the weight off this summer is to narrow down your strategies to a single, focused objective.

“Pick ONE THING that you are wanting to change and that you are willing to change,” Ferman said, “and just DO IT.”

She gave us four great examples of single goals you can start doing today:

  • Work out: Thirty minutes of exercise that you’re currently not doing
  • No booze or sweets: Eliminating be eliminating alcohol or sugar six days a week
  • Adios to late-night snacks: No eating after 7 p.m.
  • Go healty: Change the nature of your snacks

2. Make the Trade

Financial coach Michelle Tascoe is an expert in numbers and investment. Her dollar sense carries over pretty easily to the weight loss world: sometimes it’s better to cut out the short-term profits for the long-term wealth.

“How you do anything is how you do everything,” Tascoe said. “What are the short-term gratifications that you can trade for long-term success?”

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Yes — if you want to look good this summer you’re going to have to give up the glorious short-term deliciousness of, for example, McDonald’s, six packs of Sierra Nevada, all those amazing pastries you devour for breakfast and hallowed halls of your favorite neighborhood pizzeria.

Of course, these aren’t the only short-term gratifications you have to give up. Each person is an individual. For you, your short-term mistress may be the bag of Skittles you have stashed in your desk at work or the growler of IPA tucked away in the back of the fridge in your man cave.

If you want long-term change, you’ll have to start making some hard choices about your short-term habits.

3. Feel It Out

For New York Times bestselling author and Law of Attraction coach Christy Whitman, succeeding with summer weight loss doesn’t start with a waist measurement, I-will-abstain-from-chocolate pronouncement or a Facebook post promising all your friends you’re going to be OMG-skinny! by July.

“Focus on how you want to feel in your body. Spend as much concentrated time as you can basking in this feeling.”

“Focus on how you want to feel in your body,” Whtiman said. “Spend as much concentrated time as you can basking in this feeling.”

As you let this feeling encapsulate you, you’ll be empowered to change the way you approach you goal.

“Allow this feeling to become dominant in your energy field,” she said, “and soon it will influence your thoughts, your beliefs, and your choices.”

4. See the New You

Big changes rarely come without thinking big.

If you’ve become trapped in a self-image in which you can’t see beyond who you are in the moment, it will be very difficult to reach the goals you want for the summer. You have to see the possibility of a trimmer body and believe you can change your reality in order to get there, said Lisa Read, a U.K. parenting coach.

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“In my experience, people tend to live up to their own self-image, meaning that if they see themselves as overweight and unable to change that, this is the result they’ll get,” Read said. “If this is the case, the first step is to work on creating a new self-image, by visualising what you want and imagining it has already happened.”

Once you’ve seen the new future you, you can put together a compelling plan for success. But not without asking yourself the hard questions first, Read said:

  • What makes you think you want to lose weight?
  • How determined are you to make a change?
  • How much do you really believe it is possible for you to lose weight?

Adding to You Summer Weight Loss Plan

Losing weight, sticking with your goals and succeeded in areas where you normally fail are the realm of self-development. Each of the coaches who helped us with this article have years of wisdom, experience and expertise to share with you.

Take a look at the videos below to get to know them a little better!

Christy Whitman

Lisa Read

Michelle Tascoe

Julie Ferman

Carole Ann Rice, Goaly Blog

Coaching is a calling

This week we talked with Carole Ann Rice, an author, life coach and life coach trainer. Carole gave us a great post about why she started a coaching academy, so we’ve decided to post in our the Goaly blog. Enjoy!

 

When I stand up at networking events as my icebreaker I introduce myself thus –“Hello I’m Carole Ann Rice and I’m a life coach and journalist – but don’t let that put you off”. And then I pause for the laughter.

The reason I say this humorously apologetic line is that announcing you are a life coach is often a cue for sighs and groans: “Oh no, not another one.”

Life Coaching: An Ubiquitous Profession

Life coaches are everywhere. We are legion.  You can’t move for them. And many are giving us pukka ones a bad name.

But being trained well and having a professional approach and a commercial take on building a successful business, you can be considered an expert and respected as a person of inspiration and powerful life changing abilities. A bit like Harry Potter only without the wand and more magical.

But being trained well and having a professional approach and a commercial take on building a successful business, you can be considered an expert and respected as a person of inspiration and powerful life changing abilities. 

I have made a great living from being a coach and I equally want to see other coaches enjoying success as professionals. But having coached countless coaches over the years, I am dismayed how ill-equipped they are to set up a busy, abundant practice as well as appearing to have huge holes missing in their training. This is a scary prospect. We’re dealing with people’s lives.

Which is why I wanted to start my own coaching academy.  But more of that later.

Carole Ann’s Coaching Genesis

I trained to become a coach some 12 years ago.  Having been made redundant from the newspaper I wrote for, I hired a coach after reading about these astonishing new phenomena in a magazine. I wanted my coach to help support me as I made my way as a freelance writer

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My coach Suzy was a wonder. She supported me, stretched me, challenged me, showed sympathy when needed and a kick up the butt when I went into “poor me” mode. I was a tricky client, a nightmare actually, but I was hooked and became boringly evangelical.  To me coaching made me feel the sky’s the limit.   I still do.

“My coach Suzy was a wonder. She supported me, stretched me, challenged me, showed sympathy when needed and a kick up the butt when I went into ‘poor me’ mode.”

Most of all though I felt truly “got” and Suzy believed in me, so much so that she suggested I retrain and become a coach and work as one of her associates.

Training to Transform

This was singularly the best offer and career choice I’ve ever made.  So with the rest of my redundancy money (about £3000 12 years ago),  I took a two-year course with CoachU; one of the world’s most respected coaching universities and worked my way through around 40 modules (it may have  been more – it was a long time ago).

These modules were conducted via telephone. On American time, we had to phone in to tutor groups and learn in tele-classrooms full of international students from the four corners of the world.  Sometimes it meant competing 4 x 1 hour modules at 2 a.m. with a head full of flu and two under-5 children upstairs and other ungodly hours to fit in with U.S. time zones, but diligently I plowed through.

Coaches are allies and unlike any other profession we can support and work with our competition to build strong practices and mutually beneficial business strands and referrals.

Graduating 12 years ago I have maintained very close connection with two “buddy” coaches I studied with (one of whom I went into business with) and both have become good friends.  Coaches are allies and unlike any other profession we can support and work with our competition to build strong practices and mutually beneficial business strands and referrals.

It was tough getting clients at first and I made a lot of expensive mistakes on the wrong marketing and business services which didn’t really pay off. Then I found what worked for me – press coverage, social media, workshops, networking, mastering public speaking, writing books and creating different programmes. These were sure-fire ways of building a full practice.

The Real Coaching Company: Changing Lives

Over the past 12 years with my Real Coaching Company, I’ve had the privilege to coach scientists, writers, journalists, international CEO’s, actors, dancers, academics, students, entrepreneurs, business start ups, mums, lap dancers and athletes along with ordinary folk stuck at a life crossroads.

My corporate clients have included the London School of Economics, Play England, National Children’s Bureau, Visa, hedge fund banks and several advertising agencies including McCann Erikson.

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I have been featured in The Sunday Times, The Independent on Sunday and  Metro News as well as all the fashion glossies and am the only coach in the UK to enjoy a weekly column in a national daily paper – Happy Monday, which features weekly in the Daily Express.

Pure Coaching Academy: Creating Coaches

They say to become a real expert you need to do 10,000 hours of anything and I think I am probably there now and have a sort of instinctual knowledge of what works with clients and how to see beneath the superficial.

I knew I could share my accrued knowledge and experience in a real and practical way and decided to form the Pure Coaching Academy.  I want people to view coaches with awe and respect and see us as professional heavy weights up there with lawyers; not dippy do-gooders or kindly hobbyists come buddies.

“I want people to view coaches with awe and respect and see us as professional heavy weights up there with lawyers; not dippy do-gooders or kindly hobbyists come buddies.”

One of the unsung joys of being a coach is that you grow and develop yourself, jump through your own limitations and see the infinite potential of the human condition. I wouldn’t ask my own clients to do anything I wouldn’t do or haven’t done myself so over the years I have expanded my own personal development and enjoy the on-going journey.  All coaches should.

Pure Coaching Academy with Carole Ann rice from Charlotte Armitage on Vimeo.

Being a life coach puts you on a path of meaning and purpose and you make a real difference as a catalyst of change.  Being a life coach and helping others is a privilege.

You need a good solid training to be become a coach and I have collated some of the most common of the human conditions and issues that keep us stuck and found real tools to help clients move on.

This is what I have distilled down into the modules of my Pure Coaching Academy:

  • People-pleasing
  • Low self-esteem
  • Procrastination
  • Negative belief systems
  • Extreme self care

  • Silencing the inner critic
  • Compelling goal setting
  • Finding your spiritual compass
  • Living in your values
  • Being “need” free
  • The myriad of fear-based behaviours which create life obstacles

Pure Coaching Academy has been designed to short cut coaches to success by sharing tools that I know really and truly work for both client and coach.

At PCA we will help develop the coach’s confidence with role play and real coaching and to build a community of on-going support , training and professional excellence thereafter.  There are no ongoing brain crushing essays to tick academic boxes.

“Being a life coach puts you on a path of meaning and purpose and you make a real difference as a catalyst of change.”

Great coaches don’t need to write dissertations. They need to be armed with ninja coaching tools, empathy, courage compassion and deep understanding of their clients.  Along with great entrepreneurial skills too.  I teach my students this too.

Our coaches will also receive a “coaching bible” which is the ultimate coach’s desktop companion which follows each module direct to your inbox and offers laser coaching questions, a “How To” guide to identify the real issue behind the superficial one and suggested directions and homework ideas for clients.  This will prove to be an invaluable tool. My students love it.

The course is one day a week for 8 weeks (Saturdays 10 a.m.-3 p.m.) plus a one hour teleclass mid-week.  It is highly experiential, the students physically and psychologically go through all the materials and we have real coaching session with real clients too.

Great coaches don’t need to write dissertations. They need to be armed with ninja coaching tools, empathy, courage compassion and deep understanding of their clients.  

At the moment life coaching and coaching schools are pretty unregulated and there appears to be a diverse body of self-appointed authorities creating guidelines and accreditation.

Some involve building up a coaching log of hours while others stipulate coaching principles which differentiate it between psychotherapeutic practices and other practices.

Pure Coaching Academy: Solid Training

I’ll admit I have struggled with these “official” accreditations and have, for now, decided that PCA is, as it says, purely about sharing the very best coaching tools and practices and the real methodology in building an affluent business and mindset needed to do just that.  But accreditation is in the pipeline and all of my past graduates will have access to this standard.

In the 12 years I have been a coach, coaching at academic institutions such as the LSE and Westminster and being a coach has seen me featured in the press, presenting and judging the Angel Film Awards in Monaco, regularly appearing on TV and radio and recently featured in Sky Living Who’d Be A Billionaire series.

I’ve even written two books: “Find Your Dream Job” and “Start Your Dream Business” with Sarah Wade.

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I have coached highly accredited  coaches who continue to seek more bits of paper, diplomas and notifications for their education and struggle to get more than two clients in one year.  Often they end up returning to their previous employment.

As a graduate from PCA, we will ensure our coaches are fully equipped and feel ready to take on the awesome task of enabling their clients to reach their goals.

We will support them and encourage them to be at their best and offer ongoing support, meet up groups and further learning.

As a graduate from PCA, we will ensure our coaches are fully equipped and feel ready to take on the awesome task of enabling their clients to reach their goals. 

Since becoming a coach I have never looked back. Happier, hopeful and more inspired than I’ve ever been I know coaching is a life changer.  You probably are already the go-to guy or gal people flock to for advice and counsel.   Why not train well and make a living from that gift?

Be a legend in your own lifetime and live your own legacy. How amazing is that?

Join us www.purecoachingacademy.com for more details. The next course will take place 19th September 2015.

 

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Finding the Spark that Pushes You

Have you ever met one of those people who seem to always have energy and enthusiasm for whatever it is they’re doing? Their zeal is infectious, but at the same time, it can be annoying!

We wonder how it’s possible to be so motivated in a world where most people miserable at work, exhausted or unsatisfied with their life.

We wanted to get the opinion of the people who are right in the middle of the daily struggles of parents, teachers, kids, executives and employees. So, we talked with several of our Goaly.com coaches.

We asked them: How do you stay motivated in your life?

Keep a Journal

A journal can be your catalyst for change – use it as the place where you write down your goals and track your personal development.

“A journal can be your catalyst for change. It will act as your inspiration and show you how far you’ve come.”

When you reach a stage in your life where you feel like you’re treading water and you don’t feel inspired to keep pushing forward, your journal will act as your inspiration and show you  how far you’ve come.

“I’ve journaled since the first journal I started in 2005,” financial coach Michelle Tascoe said.  “Ten years later I am on journal 27, and have documented all the lessons, declarations and goals set and reached each step of the way.”

Express Your Gratitude

Our own personal struggles, the way people have hurt us and the seemingly endless stream of news reports of evil acts across the globe tend to make us lose sight of the positives in our life and in our world.

Carve out a few minutes from your day and use them to examine the good things in your life and give thanks for them!

“Taking time every day to remind myself of what I am grateful for helps tremendously.”

“Taking time every day to remind myself of what I am grateful for helps tremendously,” said Hayden Lee, academic coach on Goaly.

Set Goals

Becoming motivated is difficult when you don’t have a clear direction in your life. Whether it’s a short-term goal or a long-term purpose, having a finish line or destination in mind is a tremendous way to motivate yourself.

Goaly parenting coach Lisa Read says goal-setting is an important motivating factor in her life. She even uses a mentor and life coaches to help keep her accountable and stay focused.

“My aim is to continually challenge myself to raise the bar.”

“I set myself long term, yearly, monthly and daily goals so that I’m clear about the direction I’m working towards. I also hire coaches to help me stay on track and I work with a mentor,” she said. “My aim is to continually challenge myself to raise the bar.”

Lisa Read has more great advice for parents. Check out her introductory Goaly video: